The Morning Mash Up is starting something new today called “The Morning Mash Up Chamber of Justice.” This is where you guys send us your disputes and with your help we can come up with the best solution for the problem. Here is today’s edition of The Morning Mash Up Chamber of Justice:
Hey Morning Mash Up! My name is Brian and I’m 27 years old. I need your guys’ help on something that me and my fiancé are arguing about. The wedding is in a couple weeks and my fiancé wants me to shave the beard that I have for the wedding, mainly being for the pictures. The thing is, I’ve always had some type of facial hair, whether it was a beard or goatee. I also have a nose ring which she wanted me to take out for the wedding too but I fought to keep it and she caved into me. But now, she’s saying that since she let me keep the nose ring, I should meet her half way and shave my beard. I don’t know if I want to do this. Facial has always been a part of me and I’d feel funny without it. Besides, I don’t want to look like a completely different person in my own wedding pictures – I want to be able to be me. What should I do? Do you think that my fiancé is right and that since I’m keeping the nose ring I should meet her halfway and shave? Or am I right in wanting to keep the beard because having it is part of being me? Thanks for your help Mash Up, I really need it.
- Brian from Cincinnati, OH
What do you guys think? Is this a vision of things to come for this marriage, or is it not such a big deal and Brian should just shave it off for this one day. Share your thoughts with us in the comments area below so we cna send them back to Brian!
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So when they fell in love he was in jeans and a tshirt. That doesn’t mean you wear jeans! Its a special day! Shave it! Its not like it won’t grow back!
I don’t think it’s fair for the fiance to ask him to shave off his goatee. He feels that it’s part of who he is and she met him and fell in love with him this way. And besides, brides are always advised to not change or alter their image just for their wedding day. You don’t want to go down the aisle looking like someone you’re not.
I think it depends…what kind of beard are we talking here? A nasty mountain man beard or a nice neat professional beard? If it looks appropriate then I don’t see why you shouldn’t keep it. Its a part of who you are…she’s marrying you and the beard comes with it!
When my husband and I first met he had his nipples pierced and tattoos galore. My parents first met him at a cook out by the lake, so they say all of it from the beginning. When we got married, I asked him to clean up his goatee, but wouldn’t imagine asking him to shave it. It’s part of him and I love ALL of him. Additionally, he wanted to get married barefoot. It was a great touch and was definitely our personality!
I think it is ridiculous that she wants him to shave. It is his day too and he should be comfortable. ALSO if she is already throwing the fact that her Dad is paying $50,000 in his face, i think he needs to reconsider because you know she will be throwing that back in his face for a long time.
“let” you keep the nose ring? be very afraid…. anyone who insists you change for your own wedding is selfish. that being said, you should consider how much of a problem it really is for you and be understanding. if it is truly who you are, stick to your guns. if it’s not that big a deal to you but it is to her, show her your considerate side. but there’s no way you “should” do it just because she wants ‘nice’ pictures. after all, you’re not asking her to drop weight or get breast implants or get a nose job just because they would make for nicer wedding pictures…
I think that she fell in love with him that way! Why can’t she marry him that way! That is who he is! She should want to marry him the way she fell in love with him not how she thinks he should look!
Ok…. the guy has shaved his facial hair in the past – so It’s not his IDENTITY….anyway – The wedding day is all about both looking their best – I’m sure the wife-to-be has done somethings she normally doesn’t do in preparation for the big day. These pictures are going to be looked at for generations to come & a lot of money is being spent. Soooo…….just shave it! It’s not that big of a deal – its only hair – it will grow back….gimme a break
I understand the taking out the nose ring thing, but not the facial hair. If she met you with facial hair and you’ve always had it then it’s a part of you and physical appearance.
It might look funny if you shave completely because it won’t really be “you”- get what I’m saying? I have to disagree with the person above- he doesn’t want to look back and say “that doesn’t look like me”- yes it’s just hair, so let him keep it but keep it polished.
I think perhaps you can trim your beard (similar to that of a McDreamy beard, google Greys Anatomy if you don’t know what I’m talking about
) But you should keep something. I mean what if you told her to dye her hair?
When it comes to wedding photos everyone should look like themselves, just more done up. Just go for a polished version of you (with the beard!)
They also say you should get your hair cut at least 2 weeks before so you don’t have that “just got a hair cut” look. Good luck to both of you!
i think if he took out his nose ring that that would be enough if she loves him she shouldn’t make shave. when i got married my husband had a musttash