Stan never lets his son Merrick beat him at chess. Nicole says Stan should just let Merick win one game, and this way he’ll feel good and want to keep playing. Rich, Ryan, and Stan completely disagree (of course). They do not think you should let your kids win. Nicole came back with that you shouldn’t let them win all the time, but once in a while is good to help boost their self esteem and confidence.
Rich says that when kids are really young you might take it a little easy on them in games like “Guess Who” and “Hungry, Hungry Hippo” but you don’t let them win. Especially when it comes to sons and dads. Rich and Stan believe that it’s a huge moment in a boy’s life when he finally, and truly, beats his dad at something. That’s the moment a boy knows he’s turning into a man, and will value their victory more. What do you think? Is it ever OK to let your kids win?
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My daughter and i used to race each other on our bikes every night. I never let her win. after afew months of that, we went for our normal ride–she totally cut me off-left me in the gravel-covered in road rash–and beat me! it was great for both of us. She now attends a private university. Northwest Nazarene University. Go Crusaders!
Yes its ok to let them win, when they are young. You don’t have to completely throw the game, but I agree that it can be used to boost confidence and self-esteem. I Also think it depends on their age. The older they are, the less you should let them win because it will motivate them to practice and get better so they can finally ‘beat daddy’also as they grow older the more you beat them the more they will idolize their parents and when they do beat you it will be a great accomplishment for them.
i work after school with kids during the school year and work with kids in summer camp for about 3 years now. I have had a lot experience with the topic of letting kids win games or not. Its really hard to say. I was listening to your show earlier and i understand Nicole’s position I have been guilty of letting a kid win a game a few times. In the end though i think kid has to learn how to cope with loosing because that’s what life is about no one is going to win everything. I hate the way they control kids recreational sports how everyone gets a trophy and how everyone is winner its ridiculous to me. That is not real life, when you don’t a promotion for a job no ones going to give you a constellation prize. When don’t win the world series or nba ring you don’t get a trophy for coming in second or last. You only get one for coming in first. Adults have to teach the kids about real world and the sooner they learn that you can’t win everything the better off they will be.
I was listening this a.m.. Stan, the proudest moment I ever had was beating my dad fair and square at Parcheesi and then whipping his ass in Rack-o (yes, I’m old)….dad has been gone 17 years, but my brother said the best for him was beating the PhD at chess on his own. Life isn’t fair and no one let’s you win in the real world – so might as well learn at home.
yeah. i have 2 agree. i taught my lil bro how 2 play chess,let him win a few times, then actually started trying. losing is part of life, everyon needs 2 get used 2 it at some point.