Amy from Georgia writes:
Ok, I have a problem and need some advice…Maybe I am overreacting..maybe not, I don’t know…My husband has added a bunch (like a hundred or so) of Mafia War Babes to his friend list and sits around looking at their pics. I’m talking gorgeous women with boobs hanging out…women barely clothed. When we first started FB we said we would not add anyone we didn’t know and I have talked to him about it several times since NOV. and he won’t do anything about it. Am I overreacting by not liking this or is it just one of those things I need to choose to ignore…I am all about picking and choosing my battles but for some reason this really bothers me, especially since I have told him it bothers me and he won’t do anything about it….HELP ME!
What was Stanley’s advice you say? She should not ignore it because he blatantly broke a promise, and is not making any strides to correct it. Stan thinks, just like he does with his kids, there should be consequences for bad decisions. Ultimately, the problem is not staring at the girls, but that he changed his Facebook etiquette. There needs to be some consequence for your husband breaking his promise. What that consequence should be is only for her to decide because only she knows her marriage.
Do you agree with Stanley T? What would you do if you where in Amy’s shoes?
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Ha… I could’ve written this letter myself. So, I have no advice, but I look forward to seeing what others have to say!
Ha… I could’ve written this letter myself too. So, I also have no advice, but I look forward to seeing what others have to say!
Ok well… I have to admit that my husband does have a couple people like that on his my space mafia, because he couldn’t level up without more people. I think that it is unfortunate that you have to add people as your friends in order to add them to your game team. But you have to think too, that in the world of technology, are those pictures really who these people are, or are they just some misc pics these people found on the internet?
I agree with Stanley
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My advice for you would be to delete your facebook. I deleted mine the other day and I feel so empowered. Your friends on facebook I’m sure can email you or you could download AIM and chat with them on there. Maybe deleting your facebook will show your husband that you don’t care enough about facebook to let it bother you. Facebook seems to create all kinds of drama that wouldn’t normally be a problem in real life, so solve the problem by not having one.
If he is using the excuse that he is trying to build his mafia then he can add these people on facebook, then add them to his mafia, and then delete their friendship and they will still be in his mafia. Either he doesn’t know this or he is not being truthful.
I would make my husband delete them. My husband plays Mafia and Pirates, but once he adds a friend and they accept into his player list for either game, he deletes them from his friends. This will not affect the player list in any game. I do the same for Sorority Life, of course that is typically a bunch of girls, but nevertheless neither of us want strangers having access to our personal information on our wall, info tab or pictures.
You can block all strangers from having any access to your personal information, and as Veronica said are those people really in those pics that he is looking at. We all look at others pictures there is not one person out there who can actually say they have never looked at anyone else’s pictures. As for the agreement well you 2 are in this marriage together and not the rest of the world how would he feel if he knew that you reached out to the public for help? I myself play farmville and have added a bunch of strangers to my FB and they have very limited access to my profile.
I just had this argument yesterday and I was right! =) Its going too far….. Ask them how they would like you looking at way hot dudes and chattin it up while you play the game! I did however comprimise and now we play the game together and actually have fun doin so. =)
If the wife has made it known that it bothers her, the husband should really stop. I think it is sad that he wants to betray the woman he loves by looking at pictures of other women. The proper thing to do that would show he is a true gentlemen is to remove the women from being his “friends” on Facebook. He is risking losing his best friend and that is not worth the price.
Please send links to these Mafia War Babes for further investigation…
I totally agree with Stanley!