Stan was talking with The Morning Mash Up’s producer, Mikey Piff, about his kids and mentioned that he had his children’s teachers send his daily emails about how they were doing in school. Mikey Piff thought that daily progress reports were maybe a bit much and brought it up to the rest of The Morning Mash Up. Rich, Nicole, and Ryan all a daily report was going overboard.
Granted though, Stan’s situation is different than most. Stan is from Philly and lives there, but from Monday through Friday he lives with Rich. On Friday, he goes back to Philly to spend the weekend with his family. Stan says because he’s not able to be there during the week to keep up with his kids schoolwork, he has their teachers send him reports about how they’re doing.
Stan can’t rely on his kids to tell him they’re doing well or not. What kid do you know that would voluntarily tell their parents they’re failing? Ryan says that Stan is being a helicopter parent. If he wants to know how his kids are doing, check their report cards, that’s what they’re for. Nicole and Rich can understand Stan wanting progress reports because once the report card is out you can’t do anything about the grades.
However, they think he’s being a little ridiculous getting them every day. Once a week would be fine. What do you think? Do you think Stan is going overboard by getting progress reports every day or is he doing the right thing as a parent, especially considering his situation?
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I agree with Stanley my son is now 15 and I still check with the teachers regularly. When he was in grade school I received weekly reports and even went in too clean out his desk because he told the teacher he couldn’t find things. He is a straight A student. I think he is doing a great thing! Paying attention is 90 percent of the battle! Keep up the great work
I am a mother of 2. My oldest is 8 and my youngest is 6. I want to protect them from everything and everyone. Children need room to be themselves and to become their personality. Quarterly reports that you can address at home is sufficient. Teachers are busy they don’t have time for emails. Further, if you want to be that involved, sit down and go over each and every page of homework with them. Ask them what they did, get their text books out and quiz them. Talk to them instead of getting reports on them like a drill sergeant.
I am a teacher in SC & we have the same program at my school. All we have to do as teachers is log in daily grades. The PROGRAM GENERATES THE EMAILS FOR US. It does take more time for teachers, but is worth it SOMETIMES. Fir parents who invest time
usually it helps. There are benefits & downsides to it. As a teacher it is nice when the parents actually care how the kids are doing in school. As long as he doesn’t pester the teacher EVERYDAY, he is good to be involved.
YES. I live in chester county and know the school Stan’s kids go too and that is great that they will do it but also unrealistc. As a parent and school counselor that is a great deal to ask a teacher to do. Let ypour kids learn, socialize and make mistakes. Hovering will only hurt you in the long run because a college professor will never give you a daily or monthly report for that matter. Good luck with that.
The problem isn’t the hovering and excessive control, it’s how long that control is assumed. My parents held similar views but never released the control little by little as I grew up. In fact, at 21 after all the hovering and control they Saw me as incapable of making decisions and didn’t trust me. I ended up moving out when they weren’t home. It’s been almost 6 months and they still aren’t speaking to me and I sm nor allowed to have contact with my siblings who still live at home. So suffice to say- control isn’t bad in healthy amounts but as your children get older don’t forget to loosen the control. It’s easy to go the opposite way and hold tighter. Trust that you have raised your children well and they won’t need hovering. If you undermine that they will turn from you.
I think getting those reports is fabulous!! Too many parents in today’s world are not involved and that is not a good thing! Good for you Stan!
I agree with Stan that it is important to know what is happening with your child at school. I live in a very small community and I work at my son’s school. I see every day how there are WAY to many parents that are not involved enough in their’s child’s education (and life) and how these children suffer because of it. Our school also uses Power School and it is a wonderful thing! It’s easy and does not take up a lot of the teacher’s time. Most teachers would rather a parent get involved and know how their child is doing. It actually makes the teacher’s job easier when a parent is reinforcing the skills taught or at least making sure the student is working his/her best to know those skills!
When my sons were in school we would request that the teachers do send us reports on a daily basis when we found a problem with getting work turned in on time, and other such nonsense that young people are prone to do. Other than just trying to stop a problem before it became a huge surprise at the end of the semester we were able to keep the grades up and them playing sports. However we used this only as a last resort to keep the teacher and us on the same page so when we questioned the child there was no way to not be honest. As for when all was going well we would just wait for the quarterly grades. Don’t get too hung up on the day to day, unless there is a problem brewing.