Nicole has been getting a lot of texts and emails from her ex-boyfriend asking her for advice in his new relationship. It seems he and his new girl are having problems and thinks Nicole can can give him advice on what to do. She doesn’t think there’s anything wrong with this, but the guys think otherwise. Rich, Stan and Ryan all think it’s a bad idea to get involved with him in any way, shape, or form.
Just flip the situation for a second – how would Nicole feel if she was fighting with her boyfriend and he went to his ex for advice? Or how Matt would feel if she was going to her ex for help? Nicole would be pissed if he was talking to his ex about their relationship and she should be. You don’t talk to your ex’s about your new relationship. In fact you shouldn’t be talking to your ex at all.
Nicole thinks the guys are exaggerating. It’s not like she’s meeting up with him or even talking to him regularly. Every once in a while her ex and his girl get into a fight she tells him what she thinks of the situation and what he could about it. Do you think the guys are right and that it’s not OK to help an ex out in their new relationship? Are you with Nicole and think that having both moved on to other people, and being mature adults, there is nothing wrong with helping an ex out with some relationship advice?
I am still friends with a few of my ex’s but there are two things we don’t talk about with each other… relationships and sex. Talking about those is a recipe for disaster.
EX’s are like tax returns, put them in a file for three yrs then, cut them lose forever.
No never.
I think it’s ok to an extent. It’s not like you’re trying to help them get back into a relationship with you. I’m friends with a few of my exes and they come to me with issues they have with their new gf’s. I don’t know that their girls would appreciate it so much, but I can’t help that the guys bounce ideas off of me. The one place where I draw the line is if they are thinking about breaking up with them. Then that’s not my place to say ‘yes’ or ‘no’. They need to figure that out on their own!!
It’s so direspectful to the other for one to talk to an ex about their new relationship. Besides its pretty pathetic to give advice as an ex-its like the blind leading the blind. They’re an “ex” for a reason.
In my opinion, it’s okay, as long as you’re not still interested in the person. I think it can give you some good advice or the ex can you give good advice, because you know how they are in a relationship (or they know how you are), so you can help them better who they are for the relationship they are in now. If they’re looking to cheat on their significant other now, then walk … DANGER, DANGER! Most of my exes of don’t talk to me anymore, because of their controlling girlfriends. If their girlfriends can’t accept they have friends, then they shouldn’t have friends either, right?
I’ll disagree with Colie on this one, I’d be concerned that the ex has alternative motives, like wanting the best thing that happened to him back as a girlfriend. I’d say move on, be friends, but not that close.
An EX is just bad news period. There is absolutly no reason to talk to an EX. If I see one in Walmart I will smile and if they say Hi FIRST then I will say Hi and that is it. Ex’s Are NOTHING but bad news.