Even if you don’t watch the show, you know that things between Jon & Kate are not good. Through all the tough times and bad press they’ve been getting lately, they’ve kept reiterating that the most important thing to them is their kids, and will do whatever is in their best interest. Ultimately, last night they revealed that they are getting a divorce, but is divorcing is the best thing for the children? What about the concept of staying together for the kids, is it realistic or even a good idea? Many people think that it’s important to raise their children in a house with two parents and that divorce will negatively affect their children.
On the other hand, how healthy is it for the kids to witness their parents constantly fighting or barely speaking, and to not witness any love between them? Children pick up on more things than we realize, including tension and strain or love and happiness. If parents can divorce amicably and remain friends that’s wonderful but, what about parents like Jon & Kate who are obviously having issues with each other? Do you feel “staying together for the kids” is a realistic idea, and do you think it is a good or bad idea?
staying together for the kids is a bad idea. it hurts the kids in the long run. the couple can be friendly for the kids sake but not stay in a more commited relationship than that.
I agree, you shouldn’t stay together for the kids it is absoutely not healthy but…after watching the show from the beginning episodes (dont judge a reality TV junkie), it seems to me that they gave up way to easily. cheating aside, with the way jon looks with his spiky hair n 2 earrings, he didn’t grow up n Kate did! now he just wants to go be a kid for a while longer! on the other hanðkate shouldn’t have been demanding and disrespectful in the way she talked to him…that’s no way to talk to anyone for any reason.
thay arent together
They should stop the show and work on their marriage, but I think that Jon just is not into it all anymore. He wants to be 21 again.
John obviously grew a pair and because of this they would not be able to stay together because Kate can not let go of control, it’s just her personality. So while it’s a shame, they should not stay together just for the kids. Many of us kids from the 80′s are children of divorced parents, it’s not as bad as everyone likes to make it out to be.
Staying together for the kids is not a good idea… ever… Happy parents mean happy kids, even if it takes awhile to adjust. Kids pick up on every little thing whether you think they do or not, and to live in a house with tension and dislike and distrust, is not a healthy environment. It’s time that they put their kids first… they have always said that’s what they are doing, but I disagree. Time to turn off the cameras, Jon and Kate, and give your children the life that they deserve. Money and material things don’t mean squat if you can’t be happy with your life. It’s time to put your family first, the family you fought hard to have in the first place. Your kids deserve so much more from you both.
I don’t think they should stay together for the kids but have they exhausted every avenue first? Counseling?
I think there is absolutly no reason in the world anyone should stay in an unhappy marriage just for the kids sake.. I think they should stop tapping, get the cameras out of their childrens faces and try to come to terms with what is best for the children.. They need to be civil to one another, I do not think they realize that children pick up on every little thing and when they are acting the way they are it makes the kids uncomfortable. I hope for the childrens sake they can just move on and at least be friends. It make for a happy and comfortable life for the children, even though parents divorcing is never a happy experience.
they should go to counseling before giving up. divorce is not always the best option. the media spotlight finally caused them to crack. they can say it’s not because of the show all they want, but i’m not buying it.
I think they should stop the show for like a year and try to work it out. They are both being stubborn and need to have time to each other and stop going off in a million different directions. You can tell that they are miserable but they both still love each other they just dont want to give in.
I think they should get a divorce. They way people are blaming Jon, is wrong. It takes two. Kate treats him horribly, the way she talks to him. It is way better to part ways than to teach your children that is the way to treat your spouse, or the one you love. That does more damamge in the long run
I agree that they should have stopped the show to work on their marriage, but it’s a little late for that. I just feel really bad for the kids, but they will be worse off if their parents are together and always fighting.
You should NEVER EVER stay together for the kids. My parents did that, and trust me, even as a kid, you could tell that’s what they were doing. It gives you huge trust issues (why is this person even with me?) and it also makes you have a messed up sense of what it is to be in a relationship. It’s not pleasant and it’s terrible to live with parents who fight constantly. Staying together just for the kids is a selfish and horrible thing to do. Seperating is hard, but they are making the best choice.
I totally agree with the fact that the show should’ve been cancelled. I’m sure the marriage may be beyond the fixing point, but do they really need to keep the show going?? What would the point be now? Do we get to see the kids lives fall apart and how they are dealing with not having their parents together? I don’t feel that is something that should be broadcasted all over TV. Jon & Kate both say they are looking out for their kids, but I don’t think they are by keeping the show going.
not only should they not stay together for the kids, but when they break up, I think all the companies that gave them free stuff should get some of it back (i.e. the hair plugs, the free lypo, boob job, one of the 8 or so houses they have).
I believe too that the show should have been canceled but i think that whether it was on or not the divorce was going to happen. And, I also think that if parents can’t be sane in front of their kids whether they are married or not. Children need to go up seeing a good relationship being modeled for them to know what it is supposed to look like.
I think that they need to try and work thru their marital issues for themselves and God, if they are truly Christians. They need to work on them first, their kids are ok for now. It ius time to rebuild their marriage. I hate to see that their first turn was to divorce. I also know we don’t see everything, but I do wish they would try to work thru this!!
I think anyone who would go on Reality tv is doomed to divorce.. there is a lot of ther people that have gone thru the same.. having cameras in your face all the time, wears on a relationship..Look at celebrities! I think they need to stop the show, and try to work it out… Maybe separation is a good thing, until they can work it out… Hopefully… For the sake of the children, at least they can be civil towards eachother…..
I agree that the reality TV show is what did them in! Having a camera stuck in your face everyday would be hard to deal with, nevermind the fact that everyone in the world watching knows what goes on in your life!!! As for staying together for the kids…..that doesn’t work – I believe to stay together just to fight and show bitterness and anger only does worse things for your kids and they will grow to resent the parents for all of the fighting and anger they had to witness. Take the time you need apart from one another and if there is something there to build on…you’ll find it! If there is nothing but anger and bitterness then…… I guess you know what the answer is!
I am gonna kcuf Kate in the ssa once she is single again.
My parents stayed together for me and my brothers, which was cool at first ’cause they went to therapy and started to work things out but after a while it just went downhill again. Their problems were just to big and too many to fix and they couldn’t get past them. They’re still together and still “trying” but it makes us all miserable when we’re all together. I think it’s better for Jon and Kate to split. It’s always sad when a family breaks apart, but it really is better for everyone.
no they should not stay together for the kids. why be miserable with each other & with the kids?
I do not agree that anyone should stay together just for the kids. Marriage is a lot of work, and it takes both people. Something that hasn’t been talked about is counseling…I wonder if either of them has suggested couples/marriage counceling. With all the pressure that comes with being in the spotlight 24/7, it’s surprising that they weren’t in some sort of therapy just to help cope. Spilling your feelings to the world without talking to each other, or an unbiased third party trained to help people deal withstress is not the smartest way to run your life. I have not watched many episodes of John & Kate, but what I did see definately placed Kate in the dominant role, and like John said, he let her rule the roost and have her way for a long time. But you can’t be one way for 10 years and then suddenly decide you want to have a more dominant role in the relationship and expect everything to go smoothly. Communication broke down in this case. I just think it’s a shame to throw 10 years of marriage out the window without trying everything (including postponing production of the show, which I guess they have done) to save it. I just pray those kids are not effected as hard as many people seem to think they will be.